The Truth About Walking on Eggshells

Forcing and/or coercing a family to walk on eggshells is psychological and emotional violence.

Walking on Eggshells

“When I get everything just right, he’s a great husband. When I don’t… well, it’s a different story.”

Can you relate?

What does “getting it right” entail?

For an emotionally abusive spouse, “getting it right” usually means:

Coercion creates anxiety and is psychologically and emotionally abusive
  • Physical caretaking of the abuser;

  • Meeting the abuser’s sexual demands;

  • The victim carrying the brunt (or all) of the domestic labor needs of the household with little or no help from the abuser;

  • Emotionally “caretaking” including absorbing negative energy, whining, insults, and complaints from the abuser;

  • The victim carrying the majority of the parenting responsibilities.

Walking on Eggshells = Abuse

Walking on Eggshells is Abuse

When we understand how deeply exploitative it is, to require a family to walk on eggshells, it’s pretty clear that it’s abuse. 

Fortunately, with boundaries, self-care, education, and support, I know that you can find healing and peace from this dynamic.

Support is crucial in your healing journey. Please seek support right away. Your local domestic violence organization may be a helpful place to start. As always, one-on-one coaching sessions and our free support group are available for you.

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