The Truth About Coercive Control

What IS “Coercive Control”? Let’s talk about it.

The Truth About Coercive Control

Abuse is fueled by a desire and entitlement for power and control. Coercive control is a serious form of abuse that is being recognized more and more.

The “coercive” piece is important - most of the time, this form of abuse is difficult to identify, and is so stealthy and covert, that victims, family, friends, church leaders, and others, can’t see what’s happening. And if they do? They can easily justify it and blame the victim.

What Does Coercive Control Entail?

Coercive control includes a pattern of controlling behaviors intended to manipulate, threaten, intimidate, control, and ultimately strip away the personal freedoms and confidence of a victim. The abuser accomplishes this by:

Coercive Control Infiltrates All Aspects of a Victim's Life
  • Isolating the victim

  • Monitoring the victim’s social behavior and relationships

  • Insulting, criticizing, or judging the victim

  • Controlling the victim’s health, diet, exercise, sleep

  • Limiting the victim’s access to financial resources

  • Stalking 

  • Controlling the sexual activity within the relationship

  • Controlling the family dynamic

What Should I Do if I’m Experiencing Coercive Control?

If your abuser is using coercive control to keep you feeling trapped, afraid, and disempowered, please know that you are NOT alone.

Many victims all around the globe understand the humiliation, fear, and desperation that accompanies this stealthy and insidious form of abuse.

Support is crucial in your healing journey. Please seek support right away. Your local domestic violence organization may be a helpful place to start. As always, one-on-one coaching sessions and our free support group are available for you.

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