Healing from Abuse Requires Intentional Effort
Although it’s hard work, staying boundaried plus being intentional about your self-care and healing consistently over time will result in a peaceful, joyful you!
Once you’re boundaried enough to truly stay safe from abuse, you’re well on the way to healing. At this point, you can focus your efforts less on the harm caused to you and more on your forward progress. Just like a plant grows when we focus on nourishing it, so will you grow when your focus is not on the darkness of the abuse, but on the light of your growth!
Helpful Actions for Healing from Abuse:
Validate yourself when you’re triggered or hurt. If that’s hard to do, seek validation from safe people.
Process immediately if possible. Step away, take some deep breaths, feel the pain or fear or anger, then release it.
Focus on positive truths rather than negative self-talk that was instilled in you by the abuser.
Rediscover yourself. This is a most joyful part of the healing process!
Practice trusting yourself
Just like healing from a physical wound can be painful and slow, so is healing from abuse. But the process works! Dedicate yourself to becoming who you want to be at this time next year, or next month! You can do this!
xo, Denalee