Shun Chaos: Reclaiming Peace After Narcissistic Abuse & Betrayal Trauma
Narcissistic abuse thrives in chaos. Shun it.
Abusers create an environment where they controls the narrative, keeps you second-guessing yourself, and foster an emotional whirlwind that leaves you feeling powerless. But here’s the truth: you don’t have to live in that chaos forever. Shunning chaos is an act of reclaiming your peace, your clarity, and your power. Let’s explore how you can step out of the storm and into serenity.
Recognizing the Cycle of Chaos
Abusers create instability to keep you emotionally dependent. They do this through:
Love-bombing and devaluation – One day, you’re adored; the next, discarded.
Gaslighting – Making you doubt your reality, ensuring you remain confused.
Triangulation – Pitting you against others to keep you in competition and doubt.
Sudden outbursts or silent treatment – Keeping you in constant anxiety, wondering what’s next.
The Cost of Living in Chaos
Staying in a cycle of chaos takes a toll on your physical and emotional health:
Chronic stress leads to fatigue, anxiety, and depression.
Difficulty trusting yourself and others.
Feeling stuck and unable to make clear decisions.
Steps to Shun Chaos
Set Firm Boundaries – No more engaging in drama or emotional manipulation.
Prioritize a Calm Environment – Your space should reflect peace, not conflict.
Limit or Cut Contact – Reduce exposure to chaos-inducing individuals.
Create a Daily Peace Practice – Meditation, journaling, nature walks, or deep breathing can reset your nervous system.
Chaos is not love. It’s a manipulation tactic. Choosing peace means stepping into your power and refusing to be a pawn in someone else’s game. Your peace is worth protecting.
xo
Denalee