Breaking Cycles of Emotional Abuse

Every step you take toward creating peace in your life, is another step toward breaking the cycle.

Covert Abuse Creates Self-Recrimination in the Victim

One commonality I see among victims of covert abuse, is the tendency to be extremely hard on themselves. 

A dear friend, and victim of emotional abuse, vulnerably shared (with permission):

I’d like to think of myself as a cycle-breaker, but the cycle isn’t broken. I try to be a good example to my children, but the fact that I married an abuser in the first place - isn’t that just perpetuating the cycle? I get so down on myself because when it comes down to it, I’m just like every generation before me. And it’ll be up to my kids to be the real “cycle-breakers.”

Here’s the Truth About Breaking Toxic and Abusive Cycles:

Every step you take toward peace and healthy relationships, breaks some aspect of generational cycles of misogyny, toxicity, abuse, and trauma. 

Every time you listen to a podcast, read a book, open a blog post, or write a journal entry to process - you are, in fact, being a cycle-breaker.

Just because other folks in your life continue to perpetuate trauma and abuse, does NOT mean that your efforts are wasted! In fact, your determination to press on in learning and acting on what you learn, are incredible examples of resilience and forging new paths, to your children and grandchildren.

My Promise to All Cycle-Breakers

I believe that the effort you make has a ripple effect that will absolutely weave itself into the fabric of future generations, and heal the wounds of our ancestors. 

I promise you, that your efforts do not have to be perfect or all-or-nothing to have that ripple effect. 

Please know that your willingness to keep going, day after day, in your cycle-breaking efforts, are so meaningful to your loved ones. 

Please know that you are creating new paths that offer new, bright, beautiful futures with every healthy, empowered choice you make.