Three Steps to Recovering From Narcissistic Abuse in a Holistic Way

Focus on Your Body, Emotions, & Environment

Three Steps To Recover from Abuse: Body, Emotions, Environment

When you’re in trauma, it’s important to tend to your body as much as you can. Eat, hydrate, rest. Eat, hydrate, rest.

But if I know one thing about narcissistic abuse survivors, we spend a LOT of time on the internet trying to figure out what the heck is going on, and if we’re valid for feeling what we feel.

So I’ve broken down what I feel are the three most simple steps to beginning your recovery from narcissistic abuse. In hopes that anyone out there who’s feeling lost, devastated, and in intense trauma will find it and know it was written with so much love and compassion as you try to navigate this difficult time.

What Does My Body Need Right Now?

1: Step One … Your Body

In the immediate aftermath of discovery or an abuse episode, it’s important to ask yourself, “What does my body need right now?”

Does it need food, water, rest, sunlight, company?

You may be experiencing such intense trauma that your normal somatic cues aren’t being recognized. Try to meet your body’s needs as much as possible.

What Does My Heart Need Right Now?

Find People Who Hold Your Emotions Carefully

2: Step Two … Your Emotions

The heart break is one thing. The invalidation of the heart break is another.

Your emotions are a sacred part of you. Only offer them to those who respect them. Find support - family, friends, our weekly support group. These are the people who will hold your emotions safely.

Choose a Safe Place That is Abuse-Free

Healing From Trauma & Abuse Requires Safe Spaces

3: Step Three … Your Environment

In the chaos of discovery or rage, everything can feel out of control. It can be difficult to make decisions - difficult.. It can feel impossible!

One important decision that I want you to make is to decide on a safe space for yourself. A space where you can sleep, eat, talk, EXIST, without experiencing abuse.

Many of my clients live in the same home as the abuser. I know this can be a scary step - and I want you to know that you are allowed to take baby steps, and I am always honored to walk alongside you.

You Can Do This!

As you consider these three steps toward recovery in the immediate aftermath of discovery and abuse, please know that I hold so much love and compassion for you.

XOXO,

Coach Denalee